soooo I kind of want to write a post on dating tips. and by want I mean I'm writing it right now. I'm no expert dater (clearly) but I've dated them all. The bro, the flake, the romantic, the cocky guy, the shy kid, the artsy one, the sweetie pie, the funny kid, the gym loving guy, etc etc etc. I use the term "dated" very loosely here, aka any type of experience from going on a date to being in a relationship and of course, the favorite state of "what are we?!!" I feel like I've come a long way (learning wise) in the whole dating thing and learned a lot of what I think works and doesn't for both people in the situation. I have a twin brother, Craig, and we give each other sweet advise lots, so that's a treat. So here goes, my personal dating advise. this part's for the gents out there and I'm sure can be flipped in some cases for the ladies.
1. firstly and most importantly, if you're going to ask a girl on a date, call her or ask her in person. any time a boy texts, facebook asks, or other social media approach, it's disappointing and annoying. if you're going to take the time to take a girl out on a date, do her the decency of verbally asking her to go with you. texting or whateves to hang out is totally fine in my book.
2. once you ask girl on said date, pick what exactly you do! something I personally hate is when I go out on a date and the guy asks what I want to do and/or where I want to eat. I feel like that should def be planned beforehand by the date asker. it's weird to have to choose what we do when I was asked on the date, I don't want to choose something too pricy or casual. giving options is better than nothing, so I think that's fine, but choosing from scratch just puts me in a weird situation.
3. dates don't have to be expensive. choosing something sweet or thought out is awesome and makes a real cute date. example would be something like a picnic and a movie on your laptop in the park or on the beach by a lake. simple, sweet, cute, the works.
4. say what you mean. i hate hate hate when boys say things to spare my feelings when they really can tell things aren't going to work out. I've never met someone who enjoys this, so this is more of an obvious 'tip', this goes both ways for girls and guys. If you're not feeling it, stop putting on a facade to spare yourself guilt and give me a glimmer of hope. it's a waste of both our time. in the end, it's obvious what you are thinking and basically i can't help but dislike you a little (or a lot) for pretending. no one likes to be strung along. i've learned if you have to toy with the idea of dating someone or not too much, you're probably leaning a lot more towards no.
5. hate the player, not the game. i went through a patch of just having a very ripe hate for dating. it wasn't fun, every boy was the same as the last, and there was a handful of disappointment. craig spit out those words "hate the player, not the game" and it's actually helped me soften up to the whole dating thing. there are a lot of people out there who are just not very nice and aren't very fun to date. and guess what? that's their fault. just gotta keep an open mind and not despise dating or else you get nowhere, obviously.
This is all my personal opinion so I could be completely off on everything. welp, i'm sure this post is somewhat controversial but I wanted to write it anywayz, i'm 21, single, and an lds girl. aka prime dating age so this has been swimming around my mind a little lately. just getting thoughts out and I'd love to hear what anyone else has to say! if there are any boyz out there dying to be heard and want to write their dating do's and don't for ladies, email me on over your speil.
kahandace@gmail.com
xo
-C
